When something screws up (or to put it bluntly – when shit happens), we are quick to point our finger at others. Anyone but us. Why? Because if it is something bad, it got to be a mistake made by someone else. Why blame ourselves and start feeling bad for ourselves? Nobody likes to feel bad. So just point our finger to someone! Simple as that.

Some of us love to do that, and some of us do that all the time. This is a very bad habit because we jump to conclusion and accuse someone of a mistake he/she made. This mistake can be something trivial…. and yet, we tend to make a big fuss out of it.

Just look at how some bosses penalize their subordinates over some small mistakes. A missing word, a wrong font type, a technical glitch, etc. Something small which can be fixed within minutes and yet, some people just love to make a big issue out of it. What about the school teacher who blame his students for not submitting the assignment on time and punish them to stand under the hot sun for 2 hours?

A simple mistake, made into a major issue.

To make things worse, there are times when the bosses, or the teachers, realized that the mistake is actually made by them and not the people they were pointing their fingers at. Yes, we all do that from time to time. Nobody is perfect after all. But the difference here is whether we, or the teachers, or the bosses, are willing to swallow the bitter pill and admit it is OUR mistake and APOLOGIZE.

No. Most people could not bring themselves to admit it is their mistake, and even more people could not say the word “Sorry”. So we blame people over a small mistake, and later realized it is actually our own mistake….but we refused to admit it and refused to apologize.

Why? All because of this thing called EGO.

So people, learn to leave your EGO somewhere far away. Look into a problem with a clear mind, and stop jumping to conclusion. If it’s a small mistake, you can either forgive the person or just have a chat with the person. There’s really no point making it into something big. Also, if it really is your mistake, please admit it and apologize. Admit that you are wrong to blame the other person for your own mistake. Salvage whatever you can from the relationship which you’ve just damaged due to your ego.

Last but not least, remember that this does not apply only to office life, but also when you deal with your spouse, your friends, your children, your neighbors and other people in your life. Because such things, do happen a lot in our life irregardless of where we are and who we are dealing with.

Hope it helps.