People are afraid of changes. Which also means that people are afraid of making any decision which could potentially lead to changes. And this fear is what makes most people remain in the same position for years, without any progress. But sometimes, when we really think about it, we’re not afraid of changes. We’re afraid of the uncomfortable and unknown situation which might be the result of the changes.

Decision –> Changes –> Uncertainties

Ultimately, what we’re really really afraid of is uncertainty. Most of us would prefer a predictable route to travel on. Nobody would want to use a unpredictable route which could lead to a “dead end”. But seriously, is encountering a “dead end” really that bad and really that hopeless? Unless you’re telling me there’s a train charging at you and you got nowhere else to run, then maybe it’s bad.  But other than that, I don’t see how encountering a “dead end” can be hopeless. For me, as long as it’s not a life/death situation, chances are, it’s not that bad and you WILL find a solution to it. What you can do then, is whenever you’re facing a difficult decision due to your fear of the uncertainties, start spending a few minutes thinking about the worst possible outcome. Then find a solution to that outcome.

For example, are you afraid to take up a new job opportunity because you’re not sure if the company is a good one or if the job suits you? What’s the worst possible outcome? Maybe you will regret and quit your job. Well, you will just have to find another job. If you have other commitments, then prepare an emergency fund before you quit your job. Or perhaps, you’re afraid of approaching that dream girl of yours because you’re shy. Well, what’s the worst possible outcome? For her to ignore you? If that’s the case, you will realize she’s not so friendly and perhaps it’s better for you to focus your time on someone else.

In the end, you will notice that there’s really nothing to be afraid of. Uncertainties are more like myths to scare people off. If you can think of the worst possible outcome and find a solution to it, then what else do you need to be afraid of? And when you know there’s nothing to be afraid of, what are you waiting for? Just go and do it. You only pass by this life once.

p/s….. but i’m not telling you to do something which will hurt others. always think whether your decision will hurt others (besides yourself).