Dare to dream !

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Yesterday, I met up with a good friend of mine for lunch (not sure if she’s reading this), and she told me that she has been putting off some of the things that she wanted to do for months now. It’s not like she doesn’t want to do it, it’s because she places others before her. She helps others to do their stuff and by the time she finishes everything, she’ll be too tired to work on her own things.

To be honest, my friend is not the only person who is facing such a situation. I’ve heard this many times before where people keep postponing something important to them, just because they got other more ‘urgent’ stuff to do – work, family, partners, etc.

All I can say is, a change is needed here. It’s good that you put others before you but I also believe that sometimes, the more you do that, the worse it’ll become for you and for those people. To those people, they might end up over-relying on you. And for you, well, just realize that you are in this world to lead a life for YOURSELF. Yes, you need to spend time on yourself, not just on others.

By saying that, I mean you should start allocating some quality time to spend with yourself. Ask yourself what are the things that you really want to start doing (or trying if you’re uncertain). It could be going to the gym, reading that book you bought last year, designing a web site, attending yoga class, baking a cake, etc. Allocate 30 minutes to an hour each day for you to do such things. If your weekdays are pretty hectic, then make sure you have at least 2 to 4 hours EACH WEEK for such things. Also, having a list of to-do items can be a good starting point for you to help you get started. It’s fine if you can’t finish all of the to-do items. The important thing here is for you to know what are the things that you really want to do (just to put what you want on a piece of paper), and actually START doing it. Yes, the keyword here is START. If you never start, you will never progress.

Remember that your life is your own. If you don’t spend some quality time with yourself, who will? So start asking yourself what is it that you really want to do/accomplish, set up the list of to-do items, allocate some time for them and actually START doing them. STOP giving yourself excuses not to START. And once you’ve started, you will realize it’s really not that difficult. The next step would be make this new beginning as a habit, if possible and start to create momentum for it.

Last but not least, always bear in mind that life is too short to be spent on the same place – you need to start moving forward. You need to progress.

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