Comments on: You cannot do it

By: Alvin Lim

Alvin Lim — Mon, 09 Nov 2009 01:14:39 +0000

@ChampDog Yeap, if proper reasons are being given as to why I can't do it, then it's fine. At least I learn the weaknesses and will try to improve. But there are some people who never give the proper reasons. To them, a NO is a NO, there's no WHY. And well, sometimes, even if there's a WHY, it wouldn't hurt to put it in a nicer way. I think at the end of the day, it really depends on the person's intentions - is he really trying to help, or is he just giving lame excuses, or he's just want to drown you.
@Knowthymoney People are always entitled to their opinions - freedom of speech. But we also have the freedom to choose what kind of people to surround ourselves with. Having a few negative-thinking, confidence bashing friends around us are okay but having too many of those can be very unhealthy.

By: Knowthymoney

Knowthymoney — Sun, 08 Nov 2009 14:02:47 +0000

People are entitled to their own opinion, sometimes it is nice to hear other times not. Thus, always follow your inner heart’s voice. Don’t be the elephant that grew up thinking that a small chain is holding him back..anyone heard of that story before?

By: ChampDog

ChampDog — Sat, 07 Nov 2009 06:33:56 +0000

In this situation, we can always ask back “why do you think I can’t do it”?

It really depends on how you look at this and sometimes you don’t want your family or your love one 100% support you blindly too.

For me, I would be more interesting on the “Why”. If someone really support you, why? If they don’t, why? See whether the why makes any sense to you and perhaps we can learn something out of it. I will probably angry only if they can’t give a single reasons at all and simply says for the sack of saying…
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By: Alvin Lim

Alvin Lim — Fri, 06 Nov 2009 15:02:50 +0000

@equinoxdezign
Yeap. Good piece of advice. thanks!

By: equinoxdezign

equinoxdezign — Fri, 06 Nov 2009 14:51:11 +0000

just follow your dreams, plans and goal. the decision is yours. good luck

By: Alvin Lim

Alvin Lim — Fri, 06 Nov 2009 10:59:04 +0000

@pelf
yeah, there’s always a nicer way to tell people things which they don like to hear. sometimes being direct is good, but being too direct is not good at all. Some people think they are just being honest and nice, so they want to help u by being too direct. I think they should change their approach if they really want to help.

@Damien Tan
me nice meh? haha. do u actually mean “nice”? thick face black heart? o_O i cant read chinese ler. maybe will try find the english version?

@gapnap
yes, thats 1 thing some people do – remove the naysayers from your life. we all love a good mixture of constructive and destructive comments (the former is better of course). but if people wanna give destructive comments, pls pls pls…give us some good reasons why you are saying that.

By: gapnap

gapnap — Fri, 06 Nov 2009 07:26:24 +0000

Thats why Nike sells , Just do it .

I live by a motto , i surround myself with people who will encourage me and help me grow .

And to those who are there to suck my energy and discourage me . I will just ask them to Fck off . Even if they are close to me .

There is a big difference between constructive criticism and putting-you-down-to-make-me-feel-better
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By: Damien Tan

Damien Tan — Fri, 06 Nov 2009 03:53:08 +0000

Ah Alvin, you’re such a nice guy. Where’s your headhunter friend from, some province in old Fujien or something?

There’s a Chinese philosophy about thick face black heart. I recomend you read it up. The original version I mean. There’s an English book out there with the same title but its not as kick-ass as the 8th century original I think.

By: pelf

pelf — Fri, 06 Nov 2009 01:26:43 +0000

Yeah, the other thing that I HATE, HATE, HATE the most is when somebody (God forbids, your boss) tells you “No, you’re wrong.”

Seriously, if I thought you were wrong, I would put it in a nicer way and I would ask you to double check the figures, or I would ask you to check the email again. I would even offer help to re-calculate everything, all over again.

But no, you just came to me and said, “No, you’re wrong.”

And guess what? I could have gotten back to you with a “I told you so!” when you found out later that it was YOU who got it wrongly, but I didn’t. Why? Because I know being told “I told you so!” isn’t a good feeling.

Some people should be more tactful when dealing with other people, especially when emotions are involved.

So, my advice, Alvin, is to stay away from people who think you can’t do this or that.