Comments on: Are you afraid of other people’s opinions and criticisms?

By: Alvin Lim

Alvin Lim — Mon, 31 Aug 2009 23:47:06 +0000

@Betty
Good for you Betty.

By: Betty

Betty — Mon, 31 Aug 2009 20:34:11 +0000

No – I’m not afraid of peoples honest opinions and criticism. My goal is to become always better and to come closer to this goal it is helpful to analyse feedback.
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By: Alvin Lim

Alvin Lim — Sun, 05 Jul 2009 01:23:01 +0000

@ foongpc
Yea, correct. People have the freedom of speech anytime. How to handle them is another issue.

By: foongpc

foongpc — Sat, 04 Jul 2009 17:16:51 +0000

I’m willing to listen to other people’s opinion and criticism but it does not mean I agree with them.

I think everyone is entitled to his/her opinion. Learnt this as a blogger so I never delete negative comments on my blog : )
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By: Alvin Lim

Alvin Lim — Fri, 03 Jul 2009 10:09:53 +0000

@ Damien
Well, even if your boss is such people, you can consider changing department or just find a new job. Someone who is not open-minded or who cannot accept opinions from others, are not good bosses. Leaders should always have an open mind. That’s what I feel anyway, but i know the truth is far from that.

Mmm, nowadays, the trend in Asia is you insult someone, you will either end up in big trouble PHYSICALLY, or you end up with a lawsuit.

By: Damien Tan

Damien Tan — Fri, 03 Jul 2009 02:08:43 +0000

Everyone loves to be right and when it crosses the healthy line, people will get defensive over opinions.

I’ve seen people who peg their entire self-worth on being right all the time. They are dangerous people who can be prone to emotional violence. Sadly, in Asia, the culture of losing face and saving face has led to exactly that – people destroying others just to “save face” and a culture of revenge (isn’t that the theme of most kung fu movies).

In the West, you can insult someone and he’ll probably forget about it the next day unless he’s a gang member or a schizo.

If you work in a company where people around you exhibit this trait (that you must be wrong all the time and he must be right all the time) then its time for you to bail. Seriously, there are situations that you can save and situations where its better just to walk.