Some people believe that we should always think of doing things for ourselves, and not on behalf of other people. While I do believe this should be the correct way (only useful for those who are very much a self-motivated person), I also believe that we shouldn’t ignore the importance of doing things for other people especially people who are important to us.

In fact, it’s quite a different feeling for me. It’s as if you do have a very strong purpose for doing something and you know that there is someone out there who is depending on your success/failure. It actually allows you to withdraw a great deal of emotional strength from within yourselves.

Life is not just about doing things for yourselves

Actually, we see this all the time in movies and stories (er..mostly those movies with a big name hero ). In fact, some of the motivational gurus even insist that one should always be willing to help others or do things for other people. It is what make us human and it is also what makes whatever we do more meaningful.

Just in case some of you don’t get what I mean, let me give you a simple scenario.

Let’s say you are going to do this very very difficult and scary task – maybe a medical operation (touch wood). You’re afraid, very afraid. After all, it’s your first time in the operation room and you’ve heard scary stories before this. What you can do then, is to try telling yourselves that you can do it, and you want to be fine for the people you care about including your family. Repeat this for a few times. I believe that you will feel the confidence building up within yourselves.

I personally experienced this before. I was admitted to a specialist to do a kolonscope at the age of 22 or 23. I was very scared. The entire waiting area was filled with uncles, aunties and I was the youngest. And it was the first time I was admitted. So when I entered the “room”, with those scary-looking spotlights……. one thing came to my mind – my mum’s worried and crying face. And at that time, I told myself that I’ll be perfectly fine because I don’t want my mum to worry.

I know it’s not a big operation…er…it’s not even an operation. But it did help me overcome my fear. Because at that time, I had a purpose and a very strong reason not to fear of anything. Some people call this willpower….er…whatever it is, I believe it’s the same thing – the strength to achieve a particular goal for the people who you really care about.

Don’t get me wrong. I’m not a spiritual or motivational guru. I’m merely sharing my belief and my experience. I do hope that this piece of article actually help some of you out there who are struggling to overcome the many obstacles that life always throws our way.

p/s…….. if possible, try to manage properly the things which you are doing for yourselves and also the things which you are doing for others. But also try not go overboard with this – some people might start feeling themselves as very important, in a wrong way. Sorry if this article is making you feel that way =_= Maybe these individuals who feel they are so “great”, should learn how to be humble before practicing the things here.