Want to have wedding dinner in small town? Think again.
This is going to be a short post since I need to pack n fly to Bangkok soon.
Yesterday was my cousin brother’s wedding dinner in Batu Pahat, Johor. He’s not a rich guy actually and his parents are not doing very well either. But for the wedding dinner, they decided to make it slightly better….at around RM 500 per table. So 1 person should cost around RM 50.
Well, a lot of people have been telling my friends (not me since it’s not applicable to me yet) not to organize wedding dinners in small cities or small towns since there are a lot of cheapskate people there. They will pay you RM 20 or RM 30……but bringing along the entire family. You invited one people, but ended up having 5 or 6 people…. all for the same price.
And there are also those who give only RM 10 or RM 20, just to enjoy the nice meal.
But well, what I heard from my parents last night, was quite shocking. Around 10% of the people came with RM 5 – RM 10 red packet…..and around 3-5% of the people came with RM 1.
Yes, RM 1. You can’t even buy a chocolate bar with that.
Perhaps, its due to the economy downturn and people are becoming more and more cheapksate than before? I don’t know. I only know that I’ll not have a big wedding dinner in small town or city….because chances are, I will suffer heavy financial losses.
p/s… whether those people hate my cousin brother (or his wife) or not…I’m not sure. LOL
huh? RM1… what a surprise…
Wow, RM1? Unbelievable.
kampung people are almost like that
they will bring the whole family but pay one person’s price
but RM1 is just too much
… Hotel … they wont do that then
@ TZ
haha, maybe someone can break the record with RM0.50?
@ Bee Ean
I think our world is getting weirder each day.
@ Lisa
If bring whole family of 5, for RM 20-30…at least each person still got RM 4-6. Still better than Rm 1 =_=
@ Harmony
Don’t underestimate them!
i tot that is usually happen for those malay wedding that do kenduri at home. it is a suprise that this happen for chinese wedding in a restaurant.
@ Linda
Hahha, economy is bad. REAL BAD.
Rm1, rm5-rm10 for wedding ang pow? haha, it’s a suprise for me too. Then i ask my mother, does people really give wedding ang pow , this small? She said during her wedding time (old time, also a kampung style), they did received $5 to $6, maximun $10. $5 to $6 ringgit is consider very big already for them (during the 1960’s time). she even said that during my grandma n her time plus CNY, people normally give ang pow 0.10 cents, 0.20cents-0.50 cents & maximun $1. $1 is consider very big to them & can buy many things. For 5 cent, they can buy a big bun, a big dumpling n a lot of taugeh. For 0.10 cent, they can buy curry laksa n mee hoon soup. Ok, that’s was those days.
Of course when attend a wedding, a person should give a reasonable ang pow for the newly couples. So, Alvin let’s look at the good side, maybe the family is poor n it’s an old traditions type. rm1 is good enough than didn’t give anything. It’s the sincererity thats counts. Ang pow wedding dinner should not be treated as a business money to counter the wedding expences.
Marriage is very important n it’s a once in a lifetime of a person n
is the most happier n joyful moment for the couples , food should be given freely & best if it is a vegan style. hehe. According to the buddha sutra, serving meat could harms the couples a great deal as many animal will die in order to celebrate this special wedding day n it will incur bad retribution. So it’s better to have vegetarian wedding so that no killing its involve n it’s a blessing for the couples.
Last year my youngest brother has just got married in a vegetarian cuisine style & he receive $500 from my very close relative. So my mom has taught him that he has to return $500 to them too if the son/daughter relatives get marry in the future. So from what i observe is not necessarily good if we receive big ang pow b’cos we have to repay what people have given us. If the person is rich, then they can pay but if poor it is so hard for them.
One of my cousin also got married last year but not a veg style & they have received $1000 from their close relative. I didn’t attend this wedding. The family was very happy as it has counter the wedding expences & it’s not a lose business. My mother thinks it shouldn’t be treated like this as u have to return $1000 to people in the future. i feel that too .
*GASP*
even with RM1, you can’t have a plate of chao kuei tiao!
those people are really cheap!
@ Stella
Depends on inviduals. Some families prefer big feast so that the relatives n friends will not look down on them, or something of a status issue.
But well, nobody should expect any positive return (profit) from wedding dinners. As long as they won’t lose too much $$, it should be fine.
@ toc
Oh ya, forgot to mention, the RM 1 is not really RM 1. It’s…well…small change.