Comments on: Try not to demotivate the people around you http://blog.alvinlim.info/2008/11/26/try-not-to-demotivate-the-people-around-you/ Dare to dream ! Sun, 14 Mar 2010 01:32:50 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: Alvin Lim http://blog.alvinlim.info/2008/11/26/try-not-to-demotivate-the-people-around-you/comment-page-1/#comment-3299 Alvin Lim Wed, 26 Nov 2008 03:48:21 +0000 http://blog.alvinlim.info/?p=1007#comment-3299 <b>@ Damien</b> I do agree with you that the foundation has to be strong. A strong foundation will not be 'disturbed' by all these negative influence. My foundation is not strong currently. The news and stuff are okay, but when people just keep complaining about negative things around me, I will get pissed off. It happened too many times. LOL. Anyway, what I'm saying here is that you cannot expect everyone to have that strong foundation. Most people don't. The least we could do is not to make their foundation weaker than it already is. :) And even if a tree has strong roots, having a typhoon 24/7 and 365 days a year...will uproot it too. @ Damien
I do agree with you that the foundation has to be strong. A strong foundation will not be ‘disturbed’ by all these negative influence. My foundation is not strong currently. The news and stuff are okay, but when people just keep complaining about negative things around me, I will get pissed off. It happened too many times. LOL.

Anyway, what I’m saying here is that you cannot expect everyone to have that strong foundation. Most people don’t. The least we could do is not to make their foundation weaker than it already is. :)

And even if a tree has strong roots, having a typhoon 24/7 and 365 days a year…will uproot it too.

]]> By: Damien Tan http://blog.alvinlim.info/2008/11/26/try-not-to-demotivate-the-people-around-you/comment-page-1/#comment-3298 Damien Tan Wed, 26 Nov 2008 03:37:03 +0000 http://blog.alvinlim.info/?p=1007#comment-3298 If I may suggest, demotivation comes from the loss of self confidence. If for some reason we decide to let it go when we hear bad news, it is we who let it go, not the news reader who may just be a talking head on TV. If we understand the mechanism that causes demotivation then we can do something to stop it. We need to understand why are we so quick to push our self-confidence over the cliff. Is our confidence in ourself so weak that anything can knock it over? If demotivation stems from our own discomfort with ourself, then its a sign that our foundation is not as strong as we thought. We have to know why our present beliefs and principles has led us to crumble so quickly. We may have to re-engineer certain things. A tree with weak roots is quick to fall in strong winds. A tree with strong roots will stand firm in any weather. Hope that helps. If I may suggest, demotivation comes from the loss of self confidence. If for some reason we decide to let it go when we hear bad news, it is we who let it go, not the news reader who may just be a talking head on TV.

If we understand the mechanism that causes demotivation then we can do something to stop it. We need to understand why are we so quick to push our self-confidence over the cliff. Is our confidence in ourself so weak that anything can knock it over?

If demotivation stems from our own discomfort with ourself, then its a sign that our foundation is not as strong as we thought. We have to know why our present beliefs and principles has led us to crumble so quickly. We may have to re-engineer certain things.

A tree with weak roots is quick to fall in strong winds. A tree with strong roots will stand firm in any weather.

Hope that helps.

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